As the semester goes on, I'm gradually getting used to being called "Mrs. Wood". I've developed a perfect answer for, "How's married life?" (it's like dating, but with another ring!)
But one question I refuse to become used to is, "So when are you having kids?"
I have several rants tied to that question...
Firstly, I've been married for less than six months and our very young marriage is not ready for parenthood, so why is someone assuming that we should be having kids soon? Secondly, I think this actually an incredibly invasive question. What they are really asking is, "Are you fertile? Are you trying? How much sex are you having? Are you using birth control or natural family planning? Do you even want children? Can you have children?" But we understand those questions to be rude, so we ask if when someone is having children instead and make them feel uncomfortable about whatever decision they have made with their spouse.
We're reminded in Ecclesiastics that there is a time for everything. Including time for a young married couple to just be together and get used to this whole married thing. Or for a couple to have their first (or fifth) child. Although I've only been married less than six months, I can confidently say that each marriage is unique and private. The couple will share their hopes, dreams, and plans about their future together as they see fit. Don't pry. Let the couple figure it out their way. And as a community, family, or friend, we need to respect that privacy and that their is a time for everything, and only they know what that time is.
There are so many other questions you can ask and so many things I would love to share with friends and family about my first few months of marriage instead of that question.