Our holiday sesaon has come and gone, with a week spent in Colorado for our honeymoon, a Christmas celebration with each side of our family, and then our best friends' wedding to kick off the new year. We're finally home, healthy, and returning to our normal schedules.
With a baby on the way, we decided to not stress about forming holiday traditions this year, opting instead for one last year of feeling like children in our childhood homes. Next year's holidays will bring all kinds of changes and excitement but we thought one more year of driving around was due before we put our foots down and establish our own holiday traditions. While on our honeymoon, we took the time to make a list of every established family event (extended or immediate) and ranked them in order of priority for us to attend and made sure each side of the family will receive as close to equal visits as possible.
Any holiday traditions are tricky to navigate as a married couple. We each want our own traditions to be upheld and respected. We want to maintain that tradition as long as possible, making our family feel loved. It can be difficult to steer a steady course through learning how to be a member of a new family, without making the other feel neglected. I think it is important to remember through all of this that there is a third family to think about; your own. You and your partner are now your own family, with or without your own children and you should take the time to establish your own traditions and time together for each holiday you celebrate.
As you walk into 2017, promise yourself and your partner that this is the year that you put one another first, even around the holidays. Your mother will understand if you need time with him/her, your spouse is your number one priority now! And if she doesn't, then it is important to stand your ground and make certain your family understands that priorities have changed for good reason.
Happy 2017, I hope you make the best of what it has to offer you!