Last year, we celebrated our anniversary a few days late, grilling out and staying up too late watching Indiana Jones only to have my water break around 11:00 pm. Instead of going to bed, we had to go the hospital. We left two days later, four days into our second year as a married couple, with our son safely buckled in the backseat.
To call this year a learning experience is the biggest understatement I could make. Josh went from working as the lead bartender to management training only a few months after our son was born. I continued to take classes, while our son visited his grandparents or aunt. A time or two, he came to class with me. Unconventional? Certainly. But it worked for us fought for the balance between parenthood and achieving the goals we had set for ourselves.
Although I can't speak for my husband, I feel like I have changed so much in the last year. I have felt my self soften and relax. I made myself feel like a martyr to my child and in the last few months, have really started to practice actually asking for the help and personal time needed to be the best mama I can be.
The greatest thing I have learned this year though is this:
You have no idea how much you can love your partner until you begin raising a child together.
It brings out some of the best (and admittedly worst) things about them and provides us with a chance to work together in a totally new way. Marriage and child-rearing is not about equal, it is about equitable. It is not about your way, it is about the best way. It creates the opportunity for a young couple to really begin working together, admitting when they can do better, and rejoicing in one another's successes.
We're looking forward to our next year together, as I begin my first year as a teacher, as Josh begins his second year as a manager, and as our son begins to walk, talk, and develops into his own little self. We've learned so much about parenting and teamwork this year and I cannot wait to see how much our relationship grows in the coming year.
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