This year, Mother's Day (on Sunday) has different place in my life and heart. With D-Day right around the corner, this is arguably my first Mother's Day as physical mom. But in life and relationships, I don't think that this is the first year that I could celebrate being a mother. Not to pat myself on the back, but I think I can consider myself a spiritual mother after time spent with close friends and at camp. The concept of spiritual motherhood is not new, St. Pope John Paul II discussed it in his book, The Theology of the Body and it has been used since then help better understand the role so many women play as guides, advocates, and supporters to those around them. Spiritual motherhood isn't exclusively for single women or women who have answered the call God's call to the religious life. Just like Rachel and Leah and Mary and Martha, it can be a relationship between sisters, supporting one another in the different roles we play in our community. Spiritual motherhood is not a consolation prize; it is an honor and role that we all need and will serve in throughout our lives. It can also be taken on by women with children still in the home or by women whose children have all grown up.
How can you be a spiritual mother?
1. By Praying
When someone shares a personal struggle, hope, or fear, offer to pray for them or even with them! Share your faith and the power of prayer with those around you.
2. By Cheering
Be supportive of the hopes and dreams people share with you; attend their concerts, read their blogs, and encourage them as they pursue their passions.
3. By Advising
Share your knowledge of the world when someone comes to you. Don't be afraid to offer advice. We've all lived and experienced different things and formed opinions that can help others to make good decisions.
4. By Loving
Love people with all your heart and tell them. Those three words can be such a comfort in a difficult time and an act of celebration in a happy one. Share your love as much as possible!
Whether acting a spiritual mama to your children, friends of your children, your in-laws, or your friends, you have been called to fill a special place in their lives. Motherhood, of any sort, is a role that all women have been called to. It doesn't require strong maternal instincts or perfect housekeeping skills. Just an openness to being a positive part of another's life.