There's no place like home for the holidays... especially when you own the house! A few weeks ago, Josh and I closed and moved into our first home! Despite the horror stories that seem to follow people around when buying a home (although we do have one...), our home-buying process was relatively easy. Don't get me wrong, the underwriter needed a million things and we definitely saw a few duds before we walked into our new home, but all in all, we love our new home!
Our horror story, funnily enough, is actually a repeat of a story from the home we were renting for the past two years. Suffice to say that main lines are expensive to fix and we had to practice humility in order to take care of our new home. We have beautiful hardwood floors, good windows, and a dirt front lawn from having to have it dug up and having a large section of pipe replaced. Ouch. If we ever purchase another home, I want the pipes to experience a stress test of some sort. Run water, flush toilets, do a load of laundry and make certain that everything drains properly.
But in all seriousness, owning our own home is going to offer a peace of mind as we continue to raise our son. I already appreciate the stability that home ownership offers; knowing that this will be home for years to come. Financially, we are only paying a bit more for home ownership rather than paying another person and our quality of life is much higher! Our home is in better condition and the neighborhood is walkable and family-friendly. Kansas City's rental housing market doesn't provide space for mid-quality living. It's either low-end, affordable housing or high-end (more than my mortgage) housing. This made the logical choice for us and our family of three (plus two dogs) (and frequent house guests) to buy.
As life moves forward, despite this huge financial undertaking, we are very interested in the debt-free lifestyle and want to start making strides towards that. If you have any advice for a family starting to dabble in that lifestyle, drop them in the comments below for me!
We have so much to be thankful for this holiday season and I'm so excited begin developing traditions and creating memories in our new home.
I cannot believe that last week was my little man's first week of "school" (which is really just daycare, but school sounds so much better, right?) I have to admit, I was pretty excited for him to start. He's our first and only, which means he's had very little time around other little ones his age. Both Josh and I were excited and nervous to hear how he did interacting with others.
I was also excited because I'm a terrible SAHM. It's true. We're all blessed with different talents and demeanor and mine is currently not fit to work in the home.
What made me such a terrible SAHM?
I get bored and frustrated; I long for adult interaction. But I don't leave the house all too often because I'm just enough of a homebody (and a cheapskate) that I don't like driving around every day. I stress about silly things like the house not being clean enough or me not accomplishing enough because "I'm just at home" (which is anything but true!!)
But most importantly, I felt deeply in heart that God had different plan in store for me that would make me a better wife, mother, and Daughter. God had a plan that would allow me to serve my family and the Kingdom to the best of my abilities.
I have loved this last year of life, learning about education and learning how to be a good mother to my son. But I also knew the whole time that I was not meant to stay at home with my son forever because I just wasn't as fulfilled as I could be! And here's the important part: it's okay to not be fulfilled as a SAHM. And, (and this is really important) it's also okay to be fulfilled as a SAHM. Neither of these two roles are more important than the other!
In a Fountain of Carrots podcast, interviewing my now favorite Catholic "celebrity", Jennifer Fulwiler, they share that God gives us all different skills. Some mothers delight in baking bread and tackling the mountain that is glitter crafts with their children. Others find joy in facilitating their child's interests like baseball or violin lessons. And others come home from work invigorated and excited to spend the evening with their kiddos, feeling on fire for work and for their families.
Society has raised the stakes on motherhood to an impossible level. Pinterest, Instagram, and YouTube have resulted in so many styles of motherhood, all of which have been carefully curated to produce a brand and following that is just plain impossible. YouTubers don't do behind the scenes for a reason. Insta-mamas have professional cameras and stay at home because their Insta is their full-time job. The reality is, there are very few rules when it comes to motherhood (stay-at-home or otherwise).
God created you to be the mother to the children you have been blessed with. However you do it, as long as you do it with love, you're doing it right. Which is why I don't feel bad about leaving my son at daycare. God's got me exactly where I'm supposed to be; how can I possibly fail?